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| gottaluvdavillains
Wed 9/26/2007 12:44p | No it only shows one countdown at a time - the rest I have to look up on the list, but since I know they are there I feel much better!!
Okay, here's my dilema, please help me.
I leave tomorrow for this trip - I am super excited about just taking my only girl and my youngest baby on this trip - this will be the last year I have a child still in the single digits :( !
So here's the problem, my friend who's daughter is the same age and they have been good friends since kindergarten - had decided she wanted to go with us, well I am nice and don't ever want to hurt anyones feelings so I let it happen. Well today she finally came over to figure out a budget (yes we leave tomorrow). She is currently unemployed and recieving unemployment benifits (healthy amount) while she is retrained in a new field. She pays no rent and she and her X reconsiled to a point (he is very money oriented-if you don't have money you aren't important-if you don't work your lazy, staying home with your kids is just laziness type of person). Now she only has to pay her car payment, insurance, and food for the three of them...She has only recently started recieving the unemployment and is just signing up for the classes.
So here's the problem - I don't want to go on her budget - I want to spoil my daughter, if she wants a new BAB or a new American Girl doll I want to just say yes (okay I will say let's call daddy and check with him - just so he feels involved :P) - but how do I do this without feeling bad because she can't do this for her daughter? Her X won't give the daughter or her any extra spending money for this trip. I have already paid for the hotels and the plane tickets (to which I am supposed to be paid back next week - although she still owes me money from a year ago)... I didn't invite her on this trip - I just didn't want to hurt her daughters feelings and say no (we were suppose to go together before but things always came up)!!
How do I make this trip special for DD without crushing Friends DD in the process? |
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| mater4
Wed 9/26/2007 1:34p | Villans i hope you don't mind me interjecting but I have been reading this thread and have to say it is always fun to read posts from you and MM. I can understand your dilemma. I would privately let the mom know when you will be heading over to BAB or wherever and that way she has the option to go her seperate way. If she tags along then she will have to accept the spending you choose for your DD. I don't think your DD should miss out on being spoiled. Remember if you give this mom and out and she still goes it will be her problem and job to explain to her DD. She did invite herself so take that into consideration too. I know this sounds a bit forward but your DD deserves whatever you decide to spend on her too. |
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| mater4
Wed 9/26/2007 1:38p | Tinkerbell, I have 65 days left on my countdown. WOOHOO!
Villans, forgot to tell you to have a blast on your trip. |
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| Tinkerbell819
Wed 9/26/2007 3:36p | Gosh, Villains, I am so sorry you have this dilemma the night before your trip. I hate to see you not be able to spoil DD on her special bday trip. So, I agree w/Mater, that seems like a good solution. Give the Mom warning in case she can't afford to buy something for her DD (which, it looks like she won't be able to)and hope she takes the hint. Are you staying in the same hotel room? That's where I was thinking it would get uncomfortable, if your DD has some new BAB or AG doll, and the other girl doesn't, she might get resentful. (I just have boys and they never really gave a darn what anybody else had, but I'm guessing a little girl might be different.)
It's so nice of you to loan your friend the $$$ for the trip, I sure hope you get paid back.
Maybe, the ex will come through in the end and give his DD some spending money, that would take care of the problem! |
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| Tinkerbell819
Wed 9/26/2007 3:37p | Oh, and most importantly, HAVE A WONDERFUL TIME!!!!! (If I don't "talk" to you before you leave!) |
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| rtjl72
Wed 9/26/2007 4:00p | villians^^^
i feel for you. i can tell by your postings how much you look forward to the vacations at dl. one year we took a friend of our daughters to dl. the friends mom gave me the friends spending money. needless to say it was not near enough for food and admission and treats and souvenirs. the friend knew how much money her mom had given me and wanted to know why she could not have more money. her accounting for what she had spent was not the same as mine. wimpy me gave in and gave her more spending cash and just paid for all her food, etc. i always thought her mom did not have a clue as to the expenses involved in a trip to dl. maybe your friend doesn't either. it's probably to late to print up a quick little itenirary with anticipated costs on it. that might have helped. i don't know. you are such a dl lover i am not sure with a rookie or maybe even a dl is "o.k." person you might be sad when it is all over. it sounds like you are a pretty free spirit. i suppose you can not change plans now. i hope for the best for you and your kids dl experience. |
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| Tinkerbell819
Wed 9/26/2007 8:25p | Oh well, I guess she didn't have time to post tonite, I hope everything works out for her and there isn't a damper on this special trip. |
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| gottaluvdavillains
Wed 9/26/2007 8:54p | Now friend keeps calling me for little reasons - DD had a soccer game tonight and I still need to pack without her seeing me!! I am now hiding out on the computer (it's in DH music studio) to avoid the phone!!)
Did just get a better deal on a bigger car on expedia though, so maybe things will be better tomorrow!! Gotta go for tonight...
If I don't get to the computer in the morning(hubby sometimes works from home until commute dies down) I will Talk at you all later!! |
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| Tinkerbell819
Thu 9/27/2007 8:36a | Good luck! We'll be thinking of you and wishing you the best! |
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| Tinkerbell819
Thu 9/27/2007 8:37a | What time does your plane leave? |
