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| Tinkerbell819
Wed 10/3/2007 7:57p | I still don't know where to begin with my tirade here. I will have to break it up in pieces, I guess. For the last installment, I am outraged that you even missed your plane, for goodness sakes, b/c of your kindness! Ayiyi, it's beyond comprehension. I know that not everything goes perfectly on these perfectly planned trips, but to have so many things go wrong through no fault of your own, it's just too sad.
Can you imagine the embarrassment of her being caught stealing? I can't comprehend the thought of being arressted for the sake of some tee shirts. Even if the shirts were found on the floor of the candy shoppe, that's still part of the DL shops, it wasn't like they were laying out in the parking lot.
I was amused, in a sarcastic sort of way, by the "Are you mad at me?" comments in the car. I can just see myself in that situation "NO I'M NOT MAD!" while my face is crimson! |
132
| MOLLYSMOM
Thu 10/4/2007 11:06a | tink...I think sending a bottle of mudslides is a lovely idea.
Doesn't this whole thing just make you crazy with anger? I still can't find the right words to express how I feel about what happened to her and her family.
The friend's actions go beyond my comprehension. To shoplift??? What the heck kind of an example does that set for one's child?
We better send 2 bottles.
Sidebar...I think this whole topic started about Express Jet. For anyone else looking to fly with them, I have found out a few little tidbits. The seats are leather-like, they serve sandwiches and such instead of just fishy crackers, you get the WHOLE can of pop when you ask for one (not just the dinky plastic cup full), you get your own headphones with XM radio, and my personal favorite...beer is a buck. All that, and a 2.5 hour trip to San Diego...what could be better?
Ok, back to villains...I feel just awful for her. While I enjoy our chats each day, and while I consider many of you to be friends(as much as we can be), I wish I could give her and her daughter a big giant hug. Sometimes, this venue just isn't enough. |
133
| gottaluvdavillains
Thu 10/4/2007 1:54p | Well - Hubby finally went back to work and now I can use the computer - we have 5 in the house - but only one with internet (kids and preditors ya'know)...
Thank you for all your kind words and support - I have decided I will never talk to this "friend" again... I gladly gave up my seats on the plane for her - otherwise I would have had to sit around for an hour and wait for her to get there - by letting her go - I didn't have to see her again!!
My sis told me I should just forget about the money she owes me (close to $900 - not all given at once) and the ring of mine she has (hubby bought a ring through her when she worked at Kays and it came in the wrong size) and not speak to her again...I feel like she wins then - she got a trip and whatever else for free and still has no responsiblity to pay for it - so I will be sending her a bill for all of it - every red cent - no rounding off!!
I asked DD how it's been at school and she is so much like me - and says she has been nice to HD... Although she was very upset when HD asked DD what she did over the weekend - DD said she just looked at her and said you know what I did you were there - HD said very loudly "that's right we were in DL together" DD just said well sort - of!! DD didn't want to tell anyone where they were just because she knows not everyone can do DL as much as we do! She is a very good girl - However friend constantly made comments to HD about how jealous the girls at school would be when they found out the two of them went to DL together!! I have half a mind to invite the whole class to DL for a weekend without HD!! Wish I was rich!! I know that wouldn't be right and I wouldn't do it - but it is fun to think about it!!
DD has another friend who's mother I am friendly with and they are DL freaks like us - she knew about the trip and I finally saw her yesterday and when she asked how it went I about cried - She wanted to go beat up "friend" and I found out from her daughter that HD had been bragging about the trip since monday!! DD said she didn't want to tell me because she was already embarrassed about how HD was acting and didn't want to think about it at home too!!
Well I gotta go pick up DD from school - I try to get back on line when I get back!!
Thank you all for all the kind words - unless you are a Disney person I don't think you could understand how all this feels and how it is such a big deal... You guys, even though not here with me have made me feel so much better about how this was making me feel!! Even DS18 who says I overreact about everything has agreed with me that this was bad and told me to put it on here because you guys would make me see I wasn't just being overly sensitive!!
THANKS
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134
| MOLLYSMOM
Thu 10/4/2007 4:15p | Glad you popped on here...I love ya, and have been thinking about you.
Yes...we ALL understand what Disney means. When it comes down to it, it has little to do with the rides. It's about how it makes you feel inside. It's about how good it feels to hold your kids hand, and laugh together, and share a churro. It's about the connection our hearts make with those we love most.
You get that, villains...all of us here do. Your DS was right in telling you to come here...smart lad.
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135
| gottaluvdavillains
Thu 10/4/2007 4:29p | The trip you have planned for your DD sounds like a perfect mother/daughter weekend. It's nice to take the time and enjoy our children and do something for them out of the ordinary. Having just one may make it easier sometimes - but I do enjoy taking each of mine to do something with just them. It is one of those things as the kids grow up - one day you are their whole world and then one morning you wake up and they are starting kindergarted/middle school/high school/ or college - in my case I have now experienced all of these (DD9 and DS18 actually started Kingergarten and High School the same day). I never imagined at 41 my life would be pulled in so many directions. I am so happy no matter what's going on in any of there lives they are all willing to sit down with me and share their everyday happenings with me...some with to much info (thanks DS18)!! I love each of them and along with all the regular memories we have as a family - I have worked hard to have the individually memories with each of them - be it dinner and a movie, a musical, or Disneyland - we will always have each other to lean on and that's whats important...
Cherrish the upcoming birthday weekend with DD as it will be something she will tell her own kids about. We are lucky to have DH's that encourage these trips and events with one on one time without being jealous - that is something that makes a truely loving father and husband...Aren't we lucky :) |
136
| Tinkerbell819
Thu 10/4/2007 4:55p | First of all, how dare MollysMom take this thread that she started and bring it back on topic! ;) Seriously, though, Express Jet sounds awesome! I'm jealous b/c I will be flying SWA for about 9 hours with no tvs, no music, a 4oz beverage, but, I can't complain b/c you'll yell at me again!
Villains, I think I need a bottle of mudslides b/c I was having a hard enough time handling all of the things your "friend" did during your trip (like MM, I have been telling my family,DH and DS, all about it, and you have their sympathy, too) but, now that I've read that she owes you $900 I am definitely ready for a drink! Now, is the $900 including the ring, or is the ring in addition to the $900? |
137
| gottaluvdavillains
Thu 10/4/2007 7:39p | In addition...- I know I am a sucker - about $550 is from a while ago - and the rest is from this trip - She mentions the past amount alot so I was never really worried about it too much - but after last weekend I am realizing sometimes I am so nice I am stupid!! This is a very hard realization and makes me terribly sad. I will be talking to Mr Mudslide tomorrow night and we will commiserate on how whimpy I really am!!
I am past angry now and just plain sad over the whole deal...DD is being great about it and I just heard her telling her dad that even though "they" don't understand Disneyland she still had a good time with her mommy when they went away!! I asked her what made her think they didn't understand Disneyland and she just looked up at me with those cute hazel eyes and said they didn't even ride any fantasyland rides and if you don't ride fantasyland rides you really haven't been in disneyland...That's my girl!! Oh yeah one last thing friend and HD kept complaining about DCA not being open long enough - since that's where all the good rides were!?!?!? Their idea of fun was to ride Screamin, boomer, TOT, Space, and splash over and over again...
Oh well it was a lesson learned and I won't let this happen ever again!! I am going to toughin up and stand my ground - well at least try to... I think I will just avoid going with "friends" in the future!!
2 more weeks and I can go back for a fun filled weekend of costumes and such! Then another 5 weeks and the holiday magic will be there - Tink I hope we can meet up for a little drink - we can toast MM.
MollysMom - I hope you two have a great trip - I can't wait to hear all the details - oh yeah stay off topic will ya! |
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| MOLLYSMOM
Fri 10/5/2007 10:09a | villains and tink...yes, I admit that I went "on topic", but it was only BRIEFLY, and it WAS surrounded by "off topic" paragraphs, so it cannot be considered a major party foul. Besides, what if somebody came to this topic looking for actual Express Jet info? True, they would never find it within these posts, but if someone were diligent enough, they might find my little tid bit. Perhaps I should just start a new topic "Beer for a buck on Express Jet". That's the only important thing anyway.
You're right, tink...I got NO sympathy for your SW flight to DISNEYLAND!!!!! Glad to see you didn't even bother trying to garner any from me. Maybe villains will feel bad for ya.
villains...I hope you and Mr. Mudslide have a good therapy session. My DH has alwasy said, "what goes around comes around", and for the most part, I agree with him. However, I DO think that you DO need to let this woman know how she made you and your daughter feel, and I DO think she should pay you back the money she owes you. You're a wonderful woman, villains, but you should not let people that call you their friend take advantage of your family. That's not what friends do. Your kindness to this woman and her daughter should have been appreciated, but it is obvoius that it wasn't.
I will have Senor Corona over this evening and we will discuss your case. We will also have a meeting saturday and sunday, as this is a difficult case, and I still am experiencing anxiety and stress over it all. I'm sure tink will be glad to join in as well. I have heard that group therapy is quite helpful.
Well, I got my teenager this morning...Molly turned 13. Doesn't seem possible. She still thinks we're going to Seattle next weekend, so for now the secret is safe. I'm looking foreward to "chick days" in San Diego. It's supposed to be in the 70's so I packed shorts and t-shirts. DH said I'd better start working on shaving my legs now if I want them to be silky smooth by next friday. He's such a stinker...correct...but a stinker.
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139
| gottaluvdavillains
Fri 10/5/2007 3:58p | Doesn't the time go by so fast - one day you are teaching them to walk and the next they are walking away - off in their own world of teenage fun... Teenagerism doesn't seem like that long ago -
It seems weird when the kids are telling you about stuff they are learning (especially in health class) and you suddenly have that flash back to how embarrassing those classes were!! Oh the fun you are about to experience...
I think you are right about the money - I think I will drink some confidence tonight and let mr mudslide do my bidding...
Hubby is so mad about the ring at this point - he is ready to call about all of it - but I think at 41 it's time to fight my own battles!!
Well I hope you have a great weekend - maybe I'll get back on line, but we have 2 soccer games tomorrow and a party for my nephew on sunday so I'll have to see where I get a break!!
When are you going to tell DD where you are going, or are you just going to wait until you are boarding the plane to see how long it takes for her to catch on...I hope the weather holds out for you - it was weird last weekend -warm on thurs, cool on fri, warm on sat and Hot on Sun... It's was just raining here in the east bay of SF... |
140
| MOLLYSMOM
Fri 10/5/2007 4:29p | I don't plan on telling her at all. I'll just sit back and wait until she figures it out for herself.
My friend reminded me today that Molly will be going off to college in 5 years. I about cried. This past 13 has gone by so darn fast, another 5 is not enough, I want more. She's my baby, and the only one I have...I miss her already.
Good for you, woman! It's ok to get mad and speak your mind to your "friend" and demand your money back. It will come in handy for your next trip to DL. Seriously, it's ok to be nice...it's ok to be generous...but it's NOT ok for someone to use you as a doormat.
Good luck on the soccer games this weekend. I'll catch up with you on monday. Say hi to Mr. Mudslide for me.
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